Do You Have a Positive Self Image?

There’s a constant battle in each of us with the opposing forces of positive and negative. How we feel about ourselves, inside and out, is what creates our self-image. More so, it’s our perception of our own reality we have nurtured and cultivated over our entire lives to this point. 


And it’s constantly changing and evolving with time. Our self-image is the ultimate tour guide of our lives, and determines how we interact socially, emotionally and spiritually with any given circumstance or situation that arises. Do you have a positive self-image? Below are a few key factors of those with a positive self-image and how they see themselves.


Do You Have a Solid Foundation of Self-Worth?


People with a positive self-image believe in themselves. They feel they are worthy of this life they have created and are happily living in it. Psychologists believe self-worth and self-image begin developing at a very young age. 


Children who experienced play time in social groups and sports learned how to interact with others and developed a higher degree of social skills. They were able to accept the loss of a game or a spat with a buddy and move forward without much ado. 


This paved the way for a high sense of self-worth, as well as physical and mental confidence as an adult. Alternately, children with underdeveloped social skills, or those who experienced childhood trauma, had a lesser opinion of themselves thus feeling more insecure and less confident as adults. 


This affects all aspects of their lives, as it heavily impacts decision-making, which is a pillar of happiness and achievement.

Do You Feel Those Around You Define Who You Are?


If you are waiting for the approval of the world, your self-image might not be as positive as it could be. Those with a positive self-image don’t typically seek the approval of others. They do what they do for their own achievement and personal gain, not for the sole purpose of acknowledgement or approval of others. 


If they want to improve their lives, they do it. People with a positive self-image aren’t indignant when they do a task and don’t receive praise. In fact, if you have a positive self-image you are more likely to be a trend-setter than a follower. Sure, praise is good and dandy, but it’s just a side benefit in the grand scheme of things. 


Do You Give Power to Self-Criticism and Self-Judgment?


People who have a positive self-image are confident in their own abilities, and just as importantly, more likely to perceive setbacks as feedback rather than failure. This combination means they are more likely to be self-starters and to make rational and valid choices instead of waiting for approval from others.


It’s hard not to judge ourselves, especially when things don’t turn out as we planned. The person with a positive self-image is going to reframe the negativity and turn it into something positive. Live and learn, right? Move forward and make the necessary changes to avoid the same result. 


Of course they acknowledge there’s a problem, but they know there is also a solution. They are more focused on the solution than allowing defeat to consume and define them. How else can you improve if you don’t notice short-comings?


Are You Codependent?


A positive self-image means is defined by how you see yourself, not how another sees you. We’ve covered that much for sure. But sometimes we get caught up in relationships and inadvertently end up placing too much value on how our significant other sees us. We are ever-changing beings. 


We can’t expect our partners to always be in love with every single move we make, just like you aren’t going to always be elated at their every move. A healthy self-image in a relationship involves nourishing a level of independence that doesn’t require constant approval and validation.


Do You Love You?


It’s the most basic and complicated question there is. Sure, no one is in love with every facet of their life. Perhaps we could stand to lose a few pounds or tone that tummy up. Maybe we’d like to feel more confident in a specific area of training. But overall, do you love yourself? 


Are you happy with where you are physically, mentally, professionally, financially? And if not, are you actively planning how to remedy those less than desirable qualities? If you answered yes to any of those, your self-image is good on this front! 


So, what’s the verdict? Do you have a positive self-image? Focusing on yourself and taking time for personal growth and development isn’t ego, it’s you composing a better self-image. A better life. 


Engaging in a positive self-image reinforces greater successes in so many areas of your life. Accept yourself, love yourself. It’s easier said than done, like most everything, but it’s worth it. You are worth it!